“The desire to know your own soul will end all other desires” Rumi
To meditate is to connect with one’s being and be still. It makes no sense to force meditation upon oneself. Meditation arises naturally without effort when one has cleaned the house so to speak.
To clean the house means to resolve conflict within ourselves. To have everything within us fall into its own place.
Most of us are split people. We become split through trauma, which is basically unavoidable in this world. Trauma need not be anything which would be considered a huge event. It can be as simple as someone criticizing something we do as children or indeed adults which then causes us to lose confidence in ourselves and thus become split. We have our natural and pure impulse to act, then we have a doubting voice created by the criticism which then stifles our impulse. Our natural flow becomes stifled by the opinion someone has put on us, which then thwarts our naturalness, our creativity, our self expression.
It is important not to bring blame into this phenomenon as people who hurt us are also asleep, they have also been hurt and stifled and so the chain goes on and on repeating itself through generations. One can only be held responsible when one becomes conscious and not before. You cannot blame a sleeping person for their actions.
So when one has cleaned the house. Then meditation can arise quite naturally. I have found that there is really not any specific technique which one must follow, often once we have resolved our inner conflicts it will arise often very naturally and spontaneously even without our conscious intention to meditate.
It can help however, if ones mind is busy, to do some yoga or breathing exercises to prepare and quieten oneself in order for meditation to bloom.
The most simple technique I find is to sit comfortably with a straight back (it is fine to lean against something, as long as you are upright and your legs are either crossed or in front of you as they would be if you were sitting normally in a chair with feet flat on the ground) then relax and release tension from the body, let shoulders drop back and down then release and relax any tense muscles by flexing then releasing them. Eyes are positioned by looking at the tip of the nose and can then be closed or half closed. Breathe deeply, slowly and quietly through the nose.
Our belly, groin and chest should swell as we breathe but our breath should be inaudible and slow. It also helps to place the tongue on the roof of the mouth. Be conscious of the space in the middle of the head which in turn opens the space of the body. It opens us and from the top of the head to the groin we can feel that there is a limitless space within us. This space is where we rest. We drop down into the belly, down into the groin, as far as we can go. This opens our container fully. Now we relax, without strain, without effort, we relax. Allowing energy and breath to flow naturally throughout the body.
If thoughts should arise in us, which they certainly will in the beginning stages, we do not have to fight them. We simply return our focus to our being, we observe the thoughts, without identification. See from where they arise, follow them to their source. Feel them. Emotions too, if we follow our emotions to their source we find in us an endless source of energy. This is why there is a lot of focus put on the restraint of emotions in many religions. By not acting we find their source, we find a bottomless well of energy within us, not unlike a sun.
It is much the same as with orgasm which I wrote about in an earlier post in the methods section called working with sexual energy. By not throwing our emotions out into the world. We retain that energy within ourselves. We use it to nourish ourselves and once we are nourished we can then nourish others.
Sometimes images and visualizations may arise in us, we may journey to other realms, which communicate in symbol and metaphor or sometimes very directly, not unlike dreams, but I have found they are often more rich and of a decidedly more “spiritual” character than dreams can often be. There is much which can be learned in these realms and it is certainly interesting. But this is not really the ultimate purpose of meditation.
The ultimate purpose is to calm ourselves, to open ourselves, to allow our seed to grow within us and bloom into a beautiful flower. The purpose is to become still and centered within ourselves and to know ourselves as the being, the immortal essence and not the thoughts or the ideas or anything else of that nature. The purpose is that we find oneness, peace, timelessness, love and joy. The purpose is that we may live on this earth in full realization of the preciousness of human birth, of the beauty of this earth and this existence and of the love we feel for our fellow beings on this earth be they animal or human, as you know in all being lies a seed which has the capacity to be realized and grown. The purpose is to come to know ourselves, our soul, our essence, our truth, our nature. To purpose is to awaken!